You don’t really know many people you deal with daily. Most conversations don’t even get beyond small talk.
To really get to know a person, it takes more than a conversation about the weather. When you start asking deep questions, a really deep conversation can quickly develop.
So in this article, you’ll get a whole list of deep conversation questions for real deep talk. Be curious about what is hidden in your counterpart.
Table of Contents
- What are deep conversation questions good for?
- Deep conversation questions to get to know each other, on the first date
- Deep conversation questions to get to know each other, for friends (women, men, girls, guys)
- Deep conversation questions for couples, for your partner
- Deep questions about the world
- Funny questions for discussion
- Deep questions to think about
- More Deep Conversation Topics
What are deep conversation questions good for?
Human thoughts and feelings can reach incredible depth. Unfortunately, though, most of the time we stay on a small-talk level with our conversations.
If you really want to get to know the people around you, you can start asking them deep questions to start a really deep conversation.
Most people really like to tell people about themselves. Therefore, asking them questions about their lives or feelings can make you very sympathetic. In such a conversation, your counterpart may feel so comfortable with you that he or she starts telling things that would otherwise have remained a secret.
But you can also learn a lot about yourself in such a deep talk. Your counterpart may put the question back to you and you will realize that you have never thought about some things before. It’s incredibly exciting to learn new things about yourself.
Use the questions in our article to get to know new people properly and deeply. Or get to know your partner again from a whole new side.
Deep conversation questions to get to know each other, on the first date
What was your first impression of me?
Do you think you’re more of an introvert or extrovert?
What is your absolute favorite movie?
What could you not accept at all in a relationship?
Is there one person in your life you can talk to about anything?
What could you do without for a week?
What could you not do without for a week?
What has been your greatest adventure in life so far?
What lesson in your life so far has been most valuable to you?
What people inspire you?
Deep conversation questions to get to know each other, for friends (women, men, girls, guys)
Do I strike you as more analytical or creative?
What is your favorite show?
What is the best thing you have ever bought for under 50 €?
What do other people often think about you that is not true?
What was the best thing that happened to you this year?
What would you do if your partner cheated on you?
Would you move to another city for a new partner?
What makes you feel grateful?
What would be your perfect vacation?
What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
What is your favorite season and why?
What would you do if you were a girl/boy for a day?
Have you ever experienced something completely unexplainable?
Would you travel alone to a foreign country?
What was the most expensive thing you ever bought?
What would a person who is the exact opposite of you be like?
What was the worst tip you ever received?
When was the last time you cried?
What was the strangest gift you ever got?
Have you ever had your heart broken?
Would you like to know what it’s like to give birth to a child? (to men)
If you could meet one person, living or dead, who would it be?
What are five things you are grateful for?
What gives your life meaning?
If your life was over tomorrow, what would you regret not doing?
What is your favorite movie of the moment?
What would you do if you were a woman for a day?
What pet would you get?
Could you imagine adopting a child?
What does it mean to you to live a happy life?
What would you do if you were a boy/girl for a day?
What is your all-time favorite book?
What was the worst advice you ever got?
What do you like to do that is not considered typically feminine/masculine?
What does the perfect pizza look like to you?
What do you need to relax?
When you were a kid, what did you think it meant to be an adult?
Do you have a nickname and what’s the story behind it?
Is there a book you’ve read more than once?
Would you move to another country for the love of your life?
What three items would you take with you to a desert island?
Which continent would you like to travel to?
What is your best childhood memory?
Do you think you would be a good mother?
Could you give a second chance to a partner who cheated on you?
Have you ever experienced a miracle?
What is the most important thing in a relationship?
What has happened to you that has made you a stronger person?
Would you change something about yourself if you could?
What decade or century would you like to live in?
What fictional character would you like to date?
What would you do if you were a man for a day?
Deep conversation questions for couples, for your partner
Is there anything you have never done, but would love to do someday?
What would you do if you didn’t have to work?
Do you think I would be a good father/mother, and why?
What is your fondest memory of our relationship so far?
What is your greatest fear?
Is there anything you think you are missing in life?
In what situations do you feel loved by me?
In what situations do you feel unloved?
How does our relationship enrich your life?
What word would you use to describe our relationship?
Deep questions about the world
How would you like to change the world?
What would a world be like in which your every wish was instantly granted?
Why is there so much war when everyone wants to live in peace?
Do you think that children born in this time will have a better or worse life than their parents?
What would you do about climate change?
What is the most wonderful true story you have ever heard?
What do you think the world will look like in 200 years?
Do you think there is extraterrestrial life?
Does it make sense for humans to explore space while we still don’t understand a lot of things on Earth?
Should rich people share their wealth with poor people?
Which cultures do you find most/least interesting and likeable, and why?
Funny questions for discussion
What dangerous animal would you like to have as a pet if it were the size of a hamster?
Would you like to be ugly and rich or beautiful and poor?
Is it more important to you to be nice or honest?
What should never be missing from your fridge?
What is the key to being happy?
What three things would you save from your burning house?
What does the perfect weekend look like for you?
Would you like to know when you die?
What makes a good friendship?
Would you rather stay in a luxury hotel or go camping?
Deep questions to think about
Is there an experience in your life that has changed you permanently?
When was the last time you completely changed your mind about something?
Do you believe in fate?
Who was the craziest person you ever met?
What does the perfect day look like for you?
What will your life look like in 20 years?
What advice would you give to your 10 or 20 year younger self?
What is most important in raising children to have a happy child?
What historical person would you like to have dinner with one night?
What age would you like to keep forever, and why?
What goals do you have for the next year?
What do you think of the questions? Do you have any other suggestions? Tell me in the comments.
More Deep Conversation Topics
These topics are great for Deep Talk: to get to know and understand each other.
Family: How is your relationship with parents, siblings and relatives? How important is family to you?
Future: How do you envision your life? What are your most important goals in life?
Bucket List: What would you like to do in life?
Profession: What would you like to work in later life, and why? How important is career to you?
Relationship: What do you value most in relationships?
Health: What do you consider to be the healthiest lifestyle? How important is health to you?
Future: How do you think your environment and the world will develop in the next 10, 20 or 50 years? Will the big problems be solved?
Religion: Do you believe in God or something else? What role does spirituality play in your life?